I've had quite a few guy friends, whom i used to love to hang out with.
We used to have the greatest of times together, as a gang, as just the
two of us. I was also aware of the fact that all of them at that time,
were single, and more than ready to mingle.
I've known a few instances where they've tried, and failed, and tried again. And failed again! :-(
It just seemed that nobody wanted their heart, which they were readily offering, on their sleeves.
So after a lot of these rejections, one is bound to become a little desperate for love. That's exactly what happened with my heroes.
They found a girl, who reciprocated their feelings (maybe even in the smallest possible way) they took the plunge.
Frankly speaking, these girls do not deserve my friends.And I'm not saying it because they're my friends and we tend to scrutinise their every move, but genuinely. These girls are not approved by any of us gang members (we have our reasons :P , and trust me, they're not lame.)Frankly, my boys could've done better.
The real problem arises, when these not so good for the boy girls start feeding the boy crap about how we do not deserve to be his friends!
See, this exact point might not be true, because it isn't proven that the girls do that. But, the way the boys' behaviour changes towards us, one can't help but wonder if this new girl is turning our friends against us.
Hanging out with 'just friends' becomes a difficult task because the girlfriend is dragged around everywhere. And it wouldn't have been a problem, the more the merrier, if only they wouldn't cuddle up in one corner in their own li'l hood, completely ignoring us and at the same time making us feel bad of disturbing them in their 'couply' time.
Either way, the friends lose.
The ideal girlfriend would be the one who'd make her space in the group, not by force of course, but by her interest in us, and wanting to be our friend, for whatever reasons*wink*.
This type of girlfriend is definitely welcome in our group!
At the end of this all, I've nothing to say to the girlfriends, because frankly, I hardly know y'all. But its the boys who need to open their eyes and realise, that its us friends that have always got your back.
God forbid if things don't work out between you two, your friends are the ones who'll help you get over her. Fall in love, but don't fall out with your friends.
I've known a few instances where they've tried, and failed, and tried again. And failed again! :-(
It just seemed that nobody wanted their heart, which they were readily offering, on their sleeves.
So after a lot of these rejections, one is bound to become a little desperate for love. That's exactly what happened with my heroes.
They found a girl, who reciprocated their feelings (maybe even in the smallest possible way) they took the plunge.
Frankly speaking, these girls do not deserve my friends.And I'm not saying it because they're my friends and we tend to scrutinise their every move, but genuinely. These girls are not approved by any of us gang members (we have our reasons :P , and trust me, they're not lame.)Frankly, my boys could've done better.
The real problem arises, when these not so good for the boy girls start feeding the boy crap about how we do not deserve to be his friends!
See, this exact point might not be true, because it isn't proven that the girls do that. But, the way the boys' behaviour changes towards us, one can't help but wonder if this new girl is turning our friends against us.
Hanging out with 'just friends' becomes a difficult task because the girlfriend is dragged around everywhere. And it wouldn't have been a problem, the more the merrier, if only they wouldn't cuddle up in one corner in their own li'l hood, completely ignoring us and at the same time making us feel bad of disturbing them in their 'couply' time.
Either way, the friends lose.
The ideal girlfriend would be the one who'd make her space in the group, not by force of course, but by her interest in us, and wanting to be our friend, for whatever reasons*wink*.
This type of girlfriend is definitely welcome in our group!
At the end of this all, I've nothing to say to the girlfriends, because frankly, I hardly know y'all. But its the boys who need to open their eyes and realise, that its us friends that have always got your back.
God forbid if things don't work out between you two, your friends are the ones who'll help you get over her. Fall in love, but don't fall out with your friends.
What I'm saying, is I like to see people in love, but I hate it when I lose my friendships to it.
[P.S. I had written this post when I was losing my guy friends to their new found lovers, but I cannot ignore the fact that lately a few of my long time single girlfriends have also found love, and they're also taking the exact same course we friends dread. So everyone out there guilty of stealing my friends away....*sigh* don't take 'em awayyy :'( ]
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